Yesterday, I came across this great quote by Don Wright, “You are the only person that is with you from the moment you are born until the moment you die, so be your best friend and love yourself.”
Think of a moment when someone has criticized you or told you something negative, how did you feel? Now, imagine that happening all day.
Sometimes we become that person that, throughout the entire day, is criticizing and saying negative things to ourself. This can have many negative consequences such as reducing motivation, making us less creative and leaving us feeling worthless.
Self-love plays a big part in helping us feel inspired and motivated to do something. If there is no self-love, why the hell doing something truly meaningful for ourselves or others? Instead procrastination becomes our best friend and we stop feeling motivated or inspired to complete a task.
Many artistic and creative people go through life believing that what they do is not important or it is a waste of time. Most of the time this idea comes from within ourselves, especially if someone repeatedly told us things like this when we were children. These feelings stay within us and are hard to let go of; we don’t even realize the belief is there. But the result is that there is no interest in learning anything new and you may lose sight of your passion, feeling no inclination to connect with other like-minded people.
Another thing that might trigger a lack in creativity is having high expectations of yourself and wanting to succeed in everything. When we realize that the ‘final product’ is not the way we visualized it in the beginning, we get discouraged, we stop believing in ourselves; we become fearful of moving forward with it and ultimately we become inactive.
Stephen Mitchell, in translating The Bhagavad Gita – an ancient spiritual scripture – says, “You have a right to your actions, but never to your actions’ fruits. Act for the action’s sake. And do not be attached to inaction.” In other words, whether we like it or not, we have a duty to act, regardless of the outcome.
So, is it possible to go back to that place that was once so inspiring where we felt passionate? A place where there is the drive to keep learning and interacting with other like-minded humans? Absolutely, and one simple way to get back into the roller-coaster of inspiration is to write about it.
Write down the feelings you notice when you ask: What might have happened in the past that triggered this lack of inspiration or feeling of worthlessness? Write down any questions, even if there might not be answers. You will see that the answers come as you write. Also, write down some possible solutions or ways to act going forward, so you might feel motivated again and recover a feeling of self-worth. Finally, if you thought you failed at something before, write down the things that you learnt from that situation and how it made you a better person.
What are other activities that might help you feel inspired again?